Vaginismus is a painful or impossible feeling for a women who has an earlier traumatic experience of having sex, guilt, painful childbirth or any penetration such as insertion of tampons, and the penetration involved in gynecological examinations. The reflex causes the muscles in the vagina to tense suddenly, leg's may straighten and come together to prevent entry.
What kind of treatment is best for vaginismus?
The answer would be therapies that can help you relax physically and emotionally may be most useful. Therapies using Aromatherapy is good to induce relaxation. Regular sensual massage (but avoid the genitals area) by a partner using essential oils of ylang ylang, rose, jasmine, sandalwood or rosemary blended in a carrier oil may help relaxation and build trust.
This is one of the best Alternative Therapies. Rosemary is believed to have uplifting properties that may help counter the tension underlying vaginismus.
Psychotherapy and Counseling
If a women is in a relationship, sexual counseling usually involves both partners. It may include education about sexual responses, examination of the vagina and vaginal exercises. Techniques used may include "sensate focusing" which emphasize sensual touch and pleasure rather than penetration, or relaxation exercises, visualization and perhaps hypnotherapy.
Psychotherapy may help identify and resolve emotional problems that result from past experiences.
Source - Natural Healing Encyclopedia